Staying On Track
Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray. — Rumi
I’ve known plenty of unhappy people who subscribe to limiting beliefs, among them those that say once they’ve “made their bed” then they are stuck with whatever those decisions or circumstances are and must “lie in it.”
Meanwhile, I have made lots of dramatic changes and shifts “drawn by the strange pull of what [I] really love” and have never regretted it. It has certainly not always been the easiest course of action, but for me the most honest, fulfilling and integrated. It has always brought more growth to me and those around me. And isn’t that why we’re here? I’m more committed to avoiding or preventing regret than being seen as “consistent” to an older version of myself.
So many people have experienced dramatic change in the last year and continue to sift, sort and settle as we move into the new year. I’m talking to friends and clients about job changes, relationship changes, changes to living arrangements and location — lots of changes for everyone, including me. And what I say isn’t new. Especially now, there’s plenty of encouragement out there to do what makes you happy, increase your joy, follow your bliss.
The transitions can suck, though. And for that I encourage lots of self-care and compassion, choosing positive companions and moving steadily (even if slowly) in the direction of “the strange pull of what you really love.” Thankfully, it’s so much easier now to connect to supportive community and messaging online. Along the way can come resistance, limiting beliefs, self-doubt — all sorts of stuff to let go of and release, lest you be pulled back in to old patterns that are no longer working. So I help with that too.
One of the most important things to remember is how simple it is and can be. As someone who can overthink with the best of them, I know how to complicate the hell out of things, and have had lots of practice. Thankfully, gratefully, blessedly, I’ve learned that it doesn’t have to be that way (and works much better when it isn’t that way!). Big change really does add up with just a few minutes a day of small change. You really can see major shifts and lots of progress on small efforts done more or less consistently. Perfection really is NOT required. What a relief! I’m not without discipline and patience, but I would never say those are my strongest attributes. And yet, I have plenty of progress and success to share nevertheless.
The most essential thing is not to give up on yourself, your happiness and dreams. The things that pull you are there for a reason. Life is short so take the opportunity that each day brings to get started. Follow your joy, love and happiness and “it will not lead you astray.”